Should a Christian Woman Submit to an Unbelieving Spouse?

Episode 464 Show Notes 

From the Show

In situations where God’s word is clear, we are called to obey God rather than man or woman. Now, does this create difficulty? Yeah, it does, and I am fully aware of that. But we aren’t going to be a positive influence for Christ on our spouses if we are not willing to follow what Jesus calls us to do.

—Adriel Sanchez

Questions in this Episode

1. Peter and Judas both betrayed Jesus, but Peter was forgiven and went to heaven. Judas became remorseful in the end and killed himself. Were they just following directions in their betrayal? Or did Jesus, being all-knowing, know how they would react? I know the Bible doesn’t report that Judas repented, but if he had before he killed himself, would he have been forgiven? Would he have still killed himself? 

2. Where can a man find a good male mentor? 

3. My daughter wants to have her 2-year-old daughter baptized, but her husband, who isn’t a believer, is opposed to it. Should she just put that on hold and believe in Acts 15:31, that her own baptism and faith will cover her daughter? Or should she stand in the gap created by her husband and proceed with the baptism? The teaching about being submissive to her husband is challenging, but I have been taught that if an unbelieving spouse’s desires go against what the Lord has commanded us to do. The believing spouse is not obligated to submit. 

4. I accepted Christ at 14, but I've lived a sinful life until I was 69. Did I possibly push God too far and lose my salvation? How do I know for certain that I have salvation? 

5. What does God mean by, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one?” The idea we get from movies, songs, and culture is that we must feel it. We have this expectation that the purpose of marriage is to be “happy” or “close” to our spouse. Isn't the purpose of marriage, instead, to bring us to the Father? Are there Christian marriages where the two are not united as one? Or is “united as one” an edict? Sometimes I wonder if I truly believe this based on how I react in my own marriage. 

Resources

The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller

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