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How Do I Forgive My Abuser?

host Adriel Sanchez aired February 1, 2021

Episode 632 Show Notes 

From the Show

There is a difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. Reconciliation requires the party who sinned to recognize what they have done and repent of it. In cases of abuse, if somebody is saying, “you should forgive because Jesus says you should forgive,” and they are making demands from you, that is a huge red flag. Abusers can often operate in this way which should cause us to be very cautious. Even still, it is not always appropriate to restore these kinds of relationships.

——Adriel Sanchez

How Do I Forgive My Abuser?

Questions in this Episode

  1. 1. If John was administering baptism for the forgiveness of sins, and Jesus was sinless, why did Jesus get baptized?
  2. 2. Should Christians be cremated or buried when they die?
  3. 3. I run a 12 step program and I use 1 Corinthians 10:12-13 where Paul talks about temptation to help those in the program. Am I applying this passage correctly?
  4. 4. I grew up being sexually abused by a family member. I want to forgive him, but I do not want to be in the same room as him. When Jesus says that we should forgive seventy times seven, does that mean I should force myself to include him in my life? I am struggling with knowing what to do.
  5. 5. What is the blasphemy of the Holy Spirit?

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Adriel Sanchez

Adriel Sanchez is pastor of North Park Presbyterian Church, a congregation in the Presbyterian Church in America (PCA). In addition to his pastoral responsibilities, he also serves the broader church as a host on the Core Christianity radio program, a live, daily call-in talk show where he answers listeners' questions about the Bible and the Christian faith. He and his wife Ysabel live in San Diego with their five children.

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